Avoidant love addict cycle. The need to be loved at all costs is a serious mental condition that begins in childhood when youre denied the nurturing support and affection of a loving family. Love avoidants can also be sexual anorexics. When a love addict and love avoidant come together to form a romantic relationship a common and predictable cycle is ignited. It is an addictive process i call the love addiction relationship cycle.
The person opposite the codependent love addict la is called either the avoidant they may be a drug addict gambling addict or another type of love addict as well. 1 attracted to the seductiveness and apparent power of the love avoidant 2 feels high as the fantasy is triggered 3 feels relief from the pain of loneliness emptiness and not mattering to partner. The suffocating love avoidant begins to distance himself from the love addict who after several bouts of hysterically trying to get him back eventually becomes exhausted with the pursuit of the love avoidant and turns to someone else with whom to be helplessly love addicted or to some other addiction to cover her pain of inadequacy. The substitute addiction could be food alcohol sex work.
Because a love sex or relationship addiction cannot happen without a partner the symbiotic roles and cycles between the two must be discussed together. Often love avoidants attract anxious or ambivalent partners who pursue them in order to get their emotional needs met and the anxious avoidant cycle of attachment ensues. The players were generally abandoned as children by their caregivers or. A love avoidant is someone who both fears intimacy and abandonment and generally forms romantic partnerships with codependents or love addicts.
Tormented by loneliness the abandoned love addict will seek a new partner to heal their emotional wounds thus beginning the cycle again. The love addict will often attract what it known as an avoidant and the two unhealthy individuals will begin a damaging cycle of fear and desperation. The love addicts neediness combined with the love avoidants original wound causes them to eventually leave.